Incredible people doing incredible things: greetings
and Kia Ora. Members 3124 families
Condolences: We send our heartfelt condolences and Aroha to
one of our members whose grandson sadly passed away at aged 15 years
on the 30th March 2006. This very remarkable grandmother has cared
for him all his life, she did this under extreme circumstances and
with great dignity and compassion and in her words she, “loved
him to bits”. May the good Lord watch over him and indeed
his grandmother and her family. God bless you for all you have done.
Rest easy now.
Learning to Stand on a Moving Mat: She is 13 years old but at times acts as if she
is 3 years old, sometimes 7 and at other times 25. More often that
not she usually acts 3 years old. ‘Life is not fair, everyone
is mean’ she says, and temper tantrums abide. This is a direct
result from early childhood abuse. According to the Psych team she
is a classic textbook case. If only those textbooks came with instructions
on how to deal with this! As a caregiver I can honestly say this
is one of the hardest jobs. You find one day something will work
with her and the next day it does not. At different times this ‘mat’
swings wildly and it is all we can do to hang on with knuckles white.
Admiration: We are hearing more and more from Grandparents/kin,
who are raising grandchildren with severe disabilities, many in
wheelchairs who need to be bathed fed and who are not toilet trained.
We also know of others who care for children who are totally bedridden
and are being fed through a tube. Some caregivers are getting up
many times during the night to turn these children over. Some do
get respite care and others do not, for the simple reason they are
isolated or there is no-one to help out. For those of you out there
in this position you have our utmost admiration. We deeply feel
for you and your charges. We are also acutely aware of so many great
grandparent’s who are now raising great grandchildren.
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Work & Income and UCB (again): For new people applying for this it appears that
your Custody & Guardianship papers from the Courts may no longer
be acceptable. You now may need to get a letter from your Family
Court Lawyer stating the reasons why you were given Guardianship
& Custody from the courts. WINZ rationale is that the parent
of the child may have just given Custody & Guardianship to the
grandparents for no reason, therefore enabling the grandparents
to get this UCB. Quite frankly, if this were the case the parent
would be far better off on the DPB and keep the child. The mind
boggles! It is hard enough to raise child/ren under our circumstances.
Not to mention why oh why would grandparents/kin spend many thousands
of dollars in legal fee’s getting custody & guardianship
to enable them to get the meagre UCB unless there was a very good
reason!
We state here, that in the 7 years we have been going we have never
heard of this criteria before from either our members or from our
own personal experiences until now.
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IRD Rebates for School donations (fees): These are due for a percentage reimbursement
now. If you do not have the IRD rebate claim form you can get one
by telephoning 0800 377 774. Include your school receipts BUT take
a copy first.
Super Increases: "People receiving New Zealand Superannuation
and Veterans Pension will be better off by up to $420 extra a year,"
Social Development and Employment Minister David Benson-Pope and
Associate Minister for Senior Citizens, Winston Peters, announced
today. New Zealand Superannuation and Veterans Pensions will increase
by 3.16% from 1 April 2006 following the increase in the cost of
living for 2005, as measured by the Consumers Price Index.
In Work Payments IRD For
GRG’s receiving UCB for their g/c they raise: I really wish those in power were here to answer
our phones and listen to the tears, upset-ness, anger and despair
that I have listened to over the past few weeks. This Working for
Families has not been clear at all. Many have been given wrong information
from many people who should have known better. So here we are printing
this information which we hope will not lead you up the garden path
to nowhere.
• If you are working more than 20 hours per
week as a single grandparent or 30 hours as a couple.
• Provided the working hours condition is met, in-work payment
is also available when parents are self-employed, receiving NZ Super
or a veteran’s pension. It’s not available to families
receiving an income-tested benefit or student allowance. In-work
Payment can be paid for children for whom you receive an Unsupported
Child’s Benefit or Orphan’s Benefit from Work and Income,
or a Foster Care Allowance from Child Youth & Family.
If you still hit a brick wall with this pop into your
local WINZ or IRD office and get a copy of “Help for Kinship
Carers” brochure as it is explained in this, then front up
with the publication.
I personally feel that this is grossly unfair that Working for Families
is expecting grandparents who are on their Super or a Veteran’s
benefit and raising grandchildren and in receipt of an Unsupported
Child’s Benefit to be expected to work as well. How does this
situation help our most vulnerable and desperate!!!!!
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Today in Our Mail 13/4/06: We received all the paperwork to apply for the
In-Work payment as we were getting UCB. Complete with a pre paid
envelope.
In Work Payments IRD: From one of our Grand’s. Just thought I'd let you know the response my
husband encountered when he went to IRD for the forms to apply for
the In Work Payment. You may want to encourage others not to be
put off if they find a similar attitude.
My husband went into the office here and asked for the appropriate
forms to apply for the In Work Payment only to be told by the woman
behind the desk that we would not get it if we were already getting
the UCB. Paul explained to her that the new legislation meant that
we were entitled to this payment. The staff member continued to
deny this. He explained that we had checked the website and by their
own calculations, we were indeed entitled to apply. After considerable
argument she decided she would go and check. On her return she handed
Paul an envelope and said abruptly "Here are the forms".
Let's hope this is the exception when other GRG's approach IRD!!!
Oh I should add that he did ask her why people raising someone else’s
child should not be entitled to the same support as people 'perhaps,
such as yourself, receiving family assistance and a good income'
(or words to that effect) - good on him!
And another: I am 70 and my husband is 76 we have 3 grandchildren
who live with us permanently aged 12, 14 & 16. To say we struggle
is an understatement. We have our own health related issues. We
are devastated that we can not access anything from the “Families
Package” and to expect people our age and in our position
to go back to find work is ridiculous. Who would employ us even
if we were capable at this age or I might add had the good health
or energy.
Soapbox Granny emails. Unlike some grandparents being able to claim
either Super or Veteran's benefit, my husband & I are on Invalids,
and as such don't get anything from Working for Families, as at
the moment neither of us work, which we can't do anyway, we were
taken off Invalids Benefit and put on the Unemployment Benefit.
Neither of us are at an age where we are entitled to go on Super,
but totally agree that NO GRG should have to work in order to get
the extra payment. Yes, it's called Working for Families, but that
shouldn't mean that the people who need it the most should have
to be working to get it. Once again, the really needy miss out,
and the one's who can manage, get extra.
It's the same with Housing NZ letting out houses to people who are
earning more than $100, 000 per year. With the "UCB" we
get for raising the children, we get just over $20,000 per yr, and
Invalids is meant to be the highest paying Benefit. We are one of
the lucky ones who are in a HNZ house, but once again it's the most
needy people who miss out.
Many Thanks, Soapbox Granny from Christchurch Raising traumatized children or children with
psychological or special needs is work! Hard work!
Family Assistance: We have had a number of distraught grand’s
emailing and phoning because their Family Assistance has been stopped.
Some have had letters stating this must now be paid back. How did
this happen? Rightly or wrongly some people had applied for FA (Family
Assistance) whilst also receiving UCB, some were offered FA even
though they were also getting UCB. It was either one of the other
not both. It appears that FA was stopped when Working Families was
introduced hence the notifications to you. So if you were getting
both you may be asked to pay it back. If this is a struggle ask
to pay it back under ‘hardship’ where they will take
a small amount each week. We have in the past recommended that you
apply for UCB as opposed to FA.
From one of our people: Just something that I wondered if you or any
other Grandparents are aware of: Recently I had to go to WINZ for
help to buy my Grandson a cot. He was about 11 months old. His mother
had decided to remove her cot from my home while we were away for
the weekend. So I went to WINZ to get a grant to buy one.
They informed me that if I had gone to them when I
first got custody of my little man they would have given me the
money no problems But as he was now 11 months out and I have had
care of him for that 11months they would now only lend me the money.
But I would have to pay it back. It seems a little bit unfair that
they can do this. I didn’t even know I could get help until
one of the shops I went to told me.
I just thought that other grandparents who are taking
over the day to day care of their little ones should be aware of
the way things work at WINZ
It is our understanding that if you have Custody & Guardianship
you can approach WINZ for money to purchase these types of items
BUT it is a recoverable expense IE; you will have to pay it back
from your UCB. This may indeed be something we do not know about
as this grandmother said.
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Helensville and surrounding area’s GRG’s: Maree your GRG co-ordinator is calling you to
contact her. The numbers in this area of GRG’s is beginning
to grow. Phone her on 09 420 8218 or email mhemana@xtra.co.nz
Dunedin GRG support Group starting: Eileen Kelling and Nanette McKendry are willing
and keen to start a new GRG support group for our Dunedin people.
We thank them both and welcome them warmly. Nanette can be contacted
on 03 473 8105 and Eileen on 03 472 7495
Just A reminder in case you were not aware: The Grandparents Raising Grandchildren™
Trust is Governed by a Board of 8 Trustee’s and supported
with Secretarial Services provided by Business Professional Services.
We are a National Trust and have 43 localised GRG support groups
in New Zealand.
From Our Visiting Grand’s from England: Well here we are back in a chilly wet England!!
Thank you so much for your hospitality whilst we were in your beautiful
country. Hello to all of you that Colin and I met at the Co-ordinators
conference in Auckland in March.
Thank you so much, all of you for your welcome, and for allowing
us to share in your conference. It was an excellent training, you
are very lucky to have someone like Di, to organise this sort of
professional training, with excellent speakers, and relevant topics.
When I get my new groups up and running in England, I will look
to this high standard, when I am preparing new group leaders, and
hopefully eventually co-ordinators. Watch this space, and I will
keep in touch to let you know how it is all going.
Colin and I will return, for definite! We had such a good time.
Everyone we met was so friendly and welcoming. Your country is so
beautiful, and so different as you travel through it. We got up
as far as the Coromandel peninsular on the North Island, and as
far as Queenstown on the South Island. We had a hire car and covered
over three thousand miles, that's not including the North Island
scenic coach tour that we did, so I think you will agree that we
made the most of our time with you.
A big thank you to Rangitaia and the Grand’s at Kihikihi,
who allowed us to attend their group. They gave us a wonderful welcome,
and allowed us to take some pictures back to England. I will make
sure Di has those so that you can see them too. We are sorry that
we were unable to visit more of you, but it was difficult to work
out a timetable, around our busy schedule. I do hope that some of
you will e-mail, and keep in touch, we would love to hear from you.
Our girls were "very" pleased to see us return, and had
coped fine whilst we were away. Our newly expected grandchild has
not arrived yet, so we are awaiting the call to look after Laura,
it’s so exciting.
Today we return to our "Second Generation" group, and
are really looking forward to seeing everyone again.
We shall of course expect that any of you traveling to England in
the future would accept our hospitality, it would be a pleasure
to have you.
Love to you all, and many thanks,
Chris and Colin xx
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Calling entrepreneurs and wealthy business minded
people, who have children’s interests in their hearts: Below is from the web site: www.integrityhousertc.com
Integrity House is a Residential Treatment Center for girls between
the ages of 12 and 17 who are experiencing problems within their
homes, schools, or society, as well as girls experiencing difficulties
with emotional, behavioral, or substance abuse issues. Integrity
House maintains a staff of fully trained and licensed professionals
to meet the educational and therapeutic needs of each resident.
Integrity House is located in Cedar City, Utah, in the picturesque
"Color Country" of Southern Utah. Our facility is limited
to the housing and treatment of a maximum of 29 girls. Resident
activities are supervised and monitored 24 hours per day, 7 days
per week. Resident stays are typically 9 to 12 months and vary according
to each resident's needs and their response to treatment. Each resident
participates in a comprehensive program which emphasizes Individual
Improvement, Accountability, and Service. Our program focuses on
Education, Therapy, Recreation, and Community Service as the primary
tools for accomplishing the objectives of the program.
Qualifying Criteria Disqualifying Criteria
Unsuccessful attempts of therapeutic intervention in a lower level
of care
Failure to attend outpatient therapy Ungovernable Behavior Continual
Drug and Substance Abuse Unresolved issues such as; mood disorders,
conduct disorders and learning disorders
Falling behind in school as a result of non-attendance Non-compliance
to court orders Destructive behavior Sex Offenders Adjudicated youth
court ordered to Youth Corrections "Secured Care."
Children with cognitive impairment below 70 on full scale I.Q.
This type of residential care is something NZ is
crying out for. The monthly costs for this are high at USA$5300
but after going thru the site there are ways and means of achieving
this. We at GRG Trust applaud the Ministry of Social Development
for the evolving early intervention and stopping family violence
in NZ. But our hearts break for those many thousands of children
who have already been exposed to this and are presenting with the
most difficult of behaviours and who are such a challenge to raise.
It is all very well and good to close the stable door, but what
becomes of the horses that have already bolted into the paddock?
Do we just ignore them and the wonderful caregivers
who struggle to make a difference in their lives? If we want to
really do something to prevent these children from going on and
producing yet another generation of abused and neglected children,
then yes we do need to address this problem now and the sooner the
better.
Are you dealing with a child under a Mental Health
organisation? You should be able to access family help from
the following:
NAME SERVICE EMAIL DHB PHONE
Pam Beehre pbeehre@nhl.co.nz
Northland 430 1000
Rachel Sylvester sylvesr@middlemore.co.nz Counties/Manukau
Pat Wharewaka Moko Waitemata
Merle Lambert Mental Health Group Waitemata
Pacific Health Bay of Plenty 579 8025
Judith Maloney Judith.maloney@westcoastdhb.org.nz
West Coast 03 768 0499 x 2646
Fran Wilhelm Fran.wilhelm@sdhb.govt.nz
Southland 214 5786 x8364
Lynda Sigglekow Lynda.sigglekow@nmhs.govt.nz
Nelson Marlborough
Maryse Stanton Maryse.stanton@healthotago.co.nz
Otago 03 374 0999 x5402
Barbara Laird familyfacilitator@xtra.co.nz
Waikato
Raewyn Kruse Raewyn.kruse@tdhb.org.nz
Taranaki 06 753 7749
Pip Scott Pip.scott@cdhb.govt.nz Canterbury 03 364 4106
Cheryl Chiang Cheryl.chiang@cdhb.govt.nz
Canterbury
Christine Henderson Christina.henderson@cdhb.govt.nz
Canterbury
We are actively working with one of these organisations
to set up a better communication which shall benefit us in these
situations.
Caregiver Courses: June 2006:
Free To register: please contact Maxine Carroll on
0800 227 305 or fax 04 9132168.
CYF will reimburse petrol money and child care costs. These courses
are facilitated and run by the Foster Care Federation
We are aware that some of these courses in the past have had to
be cancelled due to lack of attendee’s. This is a case now
of use it or loose it. May we also say here these courses are valuable
and very informative. If you are in a position where you are shortly
expecting to be raising a kin/grandchild/ren, make an effort to
attend before they come. We are waiting on the release of dates
for the second half of year for these courses.
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Family/Whanau Support
Training Programmes During 2005 and 2006 SAMS will be holding support
training programmes for family members providing unpaid care for
a family member with an intellectual/physical disability.
Most of these programmes are held during school terms
and in school hours, with no charge to participants as they are
funded by the Ministry of Health. There are two programmes being
held specifically for Asian families in Auckland this year that
will have an interpreter at them.
This is a great opportunity for people to meet with
others in similar situations and share knowledge.
These programmes are:
• to reaffirm the strengths and skills of carers • to
increase knowledge
• to provide new information in certain areas • to refresh
energy levels
The programme content offers:
• Self paced learning • Groups choose topics of most
importance
• Interactive sessions • Flexibility
• Group exercises • Role-plays - using scenarios carers
suggest or are familiar with
• Invited guests from Disability or NASC (Needs Assessment)
Agencies
Some of the areas covered include:
• Managing relationships with professionals, • looking
after yourself - stress management,
• making life easier - behaviour management, • legislation,
wills, trusts
• benefits available, • negotiation skills,
• the impact of disability on families • an overview
of the health and disability services.
• Communication • siblings
Some contribution towards expenses incurred by people attending
the programmes will be considered. These include mileage, childcare
or transport fares with receipts required reimbursement of some
expenses. Morning tea and lunch are provided at no charge.
Outcomes for Carers from Previous programmes include:
• Increased awareness of own skills • Greater networks
• Accessing services • Ability to take on Professionals
• Involvement in Partners in Policymaking • Submissions
to Government
• Websites
Dates and locations of one and two day workshops
Auckland 18 May 2006 1 day
Pahiatua 14 June 2006 1 day
Auckland (specifically for Asian families) 24 June 2006 1 day
Morning Tea and Lunch provided at no charge. A Contribution
is available toward costs incurred to attend.
Check out SAMS website www.sams.org.nz for more information or free
phone 0508 SAMSNZ (0508 726 769)
PO Box 31231, Lower Hutt Phone: (04) 478 0804 Fax: (04) 384 7669
Email: samsrj@actrix.co.nz
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10 Ways to Get Your Kids to
Talk to You By Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC Parents can often be frustrated by their kids’
unwillingness to share their lives with them. Whether your kids
are toddlers or teens, there will be times when it’s difficult
to “break through” and find out what‘s really
going on. Here are ten ideas on how to create opportunities for
your kids to open up and share their lives with you.
1. Don't try so hard to get them to talk
The harder you try to get them to talk, the more they'll resist
you. When you relax the pressure a bit, they’ll sense it,
and be more ready to talk.
2. Slow down your own life and be available
Kids have a keen sense of how busy you are. If you're
providing enough down time for you and your kids, they'll be more
likely to feel comfortable talking to you.
3. Engage in a physical activity that they enjoy
Some kids are more comfortable when they’re moving. Shooting
baskets, playing soccer, or a game of catch may have your child
chattering away. Moving the body can serve to move the mouth as
well!
4. Be as non-judgmental as possible
If your kids feel they won't be judged when they talk to you, they'll
have no reason to hold back. Have a sense of curiosity and wonder
about what they’re saying, and limit the lectures about what’s
right or wrong.
5. Use open-ended questions
Questions that begin with "why" tend to
create defensiveness, and yes or no questions won't get much of
a response. Learn to use questions that stimulate conversation.
“What did you notice about that picture?” works better
than, “Did you like that picture?”
6. Use the car as a place for conversation
You've got them and they can't get out! Don't allow video games
or music to interfere with your opportunity to talk with them.
7. Reflect back what you hear from them
It's still the best way for your kids to feel heard, and the best
way to encourage them to expand on the subject.
8. Talk to them while they're coloring, painting, or drawing
Using these activities to allow your kids to express themselves
can help them communicate to you as well. And joining in on the
activity yourself can produce an even greater sense of connection
and sharing.
9. Provide opportunities for fun and excitement. When your kids
are doing something they love to do, they'll want to share it with
you. Provide these for your kids, and listen to them talk about
it afterward!
10. Be a parent, but be a friend as well
While you must be a parent first, being a friend to your kids will
help them to want to share with you. Don't overdo the strict parental
stuff.
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No, No, No – Living With A Two
Year Old by Sarah Veda
If your child is approaching the age of two, your
life is about to change dramatically. I know, your life already
has changed dramatically, but you’re about to enter a whole
new level of, well, frustration and despair. Luckily, the difficulties
only last for about two years………..sigh. Well,
to help you out, let me give you some tips about living with your
two year old.
First – you need to understand that toddlers
have no impulse control. This is a critical piece of information,
and you will need to chant it to yourself several times a day. Even
when a toddler knows what she’s doing is wrong, and knows
she’s going to get into trouble for it, she can’t help
it. She just has to do it.
So, don’t think your child is incapable of being
trained when she gets into the toilet paper for the tenth time today.
The best advice is just put the stuff away. And, don’t punish
her too harshly. At this age, making punishment harsher for subsequent
offenses isn’t helpful. The same time out routine each time
will have more effect, though you must understand me when I say
this – nothing except growing older will have much effect
on a two year old.
Secondly, if you live with a two year old, don’t
try to do anything in a hurry. Gone, at least for a while, are the
days when you can “run to the grocery store”. At this
age everything takes a long time, and you should just get used to
it. Trying to hurry them along only creates frustration for both
of you. Let them try to get in and out of the car themselves. Let
them pick exactly which grocery cart you’ll use. It’s
good for their development and it helps keep peace.
Thirdly, pick your battles. Don’t allow anything
that’s unsafe, but don’t try to control how and when
everything gets done. If she wants to wear the purple plaid pants
with the yellow striped top, some days you just need to let her
do it. One way to minimize the battles is to give your child some
choices up front, but not too many. For instance, pick out two appropriate
outfits for the day, and then let her choose between them.
Finally, enjoy this age. As difficult as two year
olds can be (oh, and three year olds can be just as bad), they are
also simply magical to watch. They learn something new every day.
They’re excited and amazed by the simplest things, like blowing
bubbles and getting a sticker. They’re a wonderful combination
of baby and child, and they’ll never be this age again. Thank
God.
About The Author: Sarah is a 41 year old wife
and mother of two boys and one girl. She spent many years as a manager
in the corporate world, and gave it up to be a stay at home mom.
Go to http://www.infantresources.com now and get her incredible
baby mini course – absolutely free.
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What to do When Your Child
Lies Introduction
Children lie. This is part of their normal development.
Throughout childhood, children clarify boundaries by testing limits.
Lying is one of the things that they test. Therefore, when your
child lies you should not take it personally.
Although some children are capable of deceiving by
age four, five years of age is when children commonly experiment
with lying. However, lying usually does not signal a serious problem.
Unless lying becomes habitual or compulsive, your child will grow
out of it.
Problem of Lying Some children have a greater tendency to lie
than others. This is particularly true if the child sees others
lie, or where he views lying as a way to protect himself from harm.
Certain personality types also have an inclination to lie. Lying
hurts the liar. Chronic or habitual liars rarely feel good about
themselves. Lying may cause difficulties for the child at school
and with their friends. It isolates him from those he loves and
may disrupt family life.
Reasons Children Lie
Very young children are not yet able to distinguish
fantasy from reality. Children this age have a very active imagination
and cannot always differentiate between their imagination and what
really happened. Also, children this age often appear to be lying
when in actuality they have honestly forgotten what happened. Around
the age of 5 or 6 children develop a better understanding of the
difference between fantasy and reality. At this age, children develop
a conscience and understand that certain behaviors disappoint their
parents. Children also begin to experience feelings of guilt when
they do wrong. At this age a child may construct a lie to avoid
punishment or disapproval. By the age of 7 or 8, children can differentiate
between fantasy and reality and usually tell the truth. At this
age, children lie to avoid punishment or to avoid doing something
unpleasant. They also begin to understand the concept of polite
social lying. They may lie to spare someone's feelings. Lies at
this age may also be a cry for help. A child who is very fearful
or feels overwhelmed by school or some other area of their lives,
may lie in an attempt to deal with this pressure. In adolescence,
lying begins to take on a new significance. However, when an adolescent
lies it is not always a sign of trouble. Teens may lie simply to
protect their privacy or to establish their independence. They may
also lie in "acceptable situations" such as not to hurt
a friend's feelings or to avoid embarrassment. Of course, a teen
may lie to avoid punishment or doing chores, or in order to get
something that he can't get by telling the truth.
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How to Prevent Lying
Be a Good Role Model You are the most important role models for your
child.
• Tell the truth. Avoid little white lies.
• Don’t lie to your children to promote compliance.
• Keep your word. Always explain and apologize if you must
break a promise.
Encourage Truthfulness • Stress the importance of honesty at home.
• Let your child know that you value truth.
• Teach your child alternatives to lying. • Don’t
accept excuses for lying.
• Create a safe family environment so that your child can
express his feelings. • Praise your child for telling the
truth, particularly in situations where it is difficult for your
child.
• Assume your child is telling the truth.
What to Do When Your Child Lies • Do not ignore lying. • Give your
child a chance to confess.
• Give appropriate consequences for lying. • Have your
child apologize.
• Separate the punishment for lying from the punishment for
whatever the lie was designed to conceal. • Don't act spontaneously.
Think out consequences for lying beforehand
• Show your child how to repair the lie. • Don't lecture.
When Lying is a Problem The following types of lying may indicate a more
serious problem. An older child or teen that lies:
• To get attention.
• Habitually as a way to deal with the demands of parents,
teachers, and friends.
• In order to take advantage of others.
• To hide a more serious problem, such as a drug or alcohol
problem.
What to Do About Problem Lying If a child or adolescent develops a serious and
repetitive pattern of lying, then you may need professional help.
Have a child or adolescent psychiatrist evaluate your child. Based
upon what you find you have several treatment options:
Individual counseling – This is particularly
helpful if the lying is a cry for attention. Family counseling –
This is useful for families who feel that trust has been seriously
damaged, or in cases where lying is something learned from other
family members. Family therapy may be vital when the child lies
in order to protect himself from harm. Group therapy – This
form of therapy helps where the child lies as a way of getting attention.
Assessment for a learning disability – Some children lie in
order to cover up school difficulties. Lying may be an indication
of a learning disability.
Conclusion Lying is a normal part of childhood and rarely
indicates a problem. Addressing lying early and appropriately will
help prevent it from becoming a more serious concern. If your child
has a difficulty with lying you need to be patient. Your child needs
to know you care about him. Your child may have spent years to become
a master of distorting the truth, exaggerating, and lying. It will
take time for him to change his behavior.
Anthony Kane, MD
Handy hint: For Cradle Cap
Mix to a paste: Olive Oil and Baking Soda
Put on Babies head and leave for about 5 minutes,
then comb through. The cradle cap should just comb out - if not,
leave it on for a few more minutes and then wash out. (It's a good
idea not to wear good clothes as it can get a bit messy!)
Play dough Di
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